At this time on Saturday, I will no longer be Katie McKay, but Katie Bennett. Family has started to come into town, so I won't have another chance to be on here for a while. So wish me luck! And happy first day of spring! It's 70 degrees here-- perfect weather... I just wish it would be this nice on Saturday (it's supposed to be cold and rainy). See ya on the flip side! ;-)
It's only 5 days to the wedding and I finally got my vows written. WHEW! It was a huge deal for me-- I wanted them to be perfect and to express exactly how I feel... It was not an easy feat. But I got it done and they turned out remarkably well! (Let me just say, there are a lot of cheesy and stupid vow examples out there on the internet...) Anyway, now that that's done, I just have to clean my room, pack the rest of my things, and finish helping around the house. Oh, and throw in a few shifts at work. I'm going to be quite busy this week, but I'm excited for it all. It's all finally happening and falling into place. I wish tomorrow were Saturday!
I was having a conversation with my mom earlier about marriage advice-- which was all very helpful and obviously spoken from experience. It's been interesting talking to people who Michael and I are friends with who are married and hear what they were told right before they got married. Marriage is a journey and an experience unlike anything else Michael and I have ever done. We can take what we've witnessed, heard about, and started to experience, and take those things to try to understand marriage-- but it's still going to be completely different than we could ever imagine! I hope we're not going to be taken off guard too much, but I think that's inevitable.
So those of you who actually read my blog, please pray for us as we embark on this adventure. It's not always going to be fun or easy, but I know it's going to be wonderful! We're going to grow together as a couple and as individuals. It's going to be awesome!
I'd like to announce that it is only 10 days till the wedding and Michael and I are married! We went yesterday to the county court house to pick up our marriage license. Did you know it only costs $10 to get married? If we didn't want a ceremony or any sort of celebration, then we could get married for just $10... interesting.
We met with our officiant the other day to go over our final plan for the ceremony. During it, we discussed what we thought marriage was and what it meant to us. It was interesting to me because afterwards I realized that in all the discussion, sex was never even alluded to; and yet, that is the focus of the biggest celebrations around marriage. Our definition and idea of marriage was about love, connection, the joining of two lives, a continuation of a journey, the beginning of a new adventure... the list went on and on. Nowhere was sex even talked about as a reason we were getting married or why we were excited to be married (although that is very exciting, don't get me wrong). But sex is not the reason we're getting married. We want to join our lives together and experience life and the ups and downs of it together forever. We just happen to be able to have sex. I want sex to express our love and devotion to to each other, to bring a deeper level of intimacy to our relationship. I don't want it to define us, but to be the expression of us. That we are committed and we love each other with our whole being-- that's what sex is to us.
I had my bachelorette party this last weekend, which was nothing but sex jokes and lingerie. The focus was not, even at the bridal shower, about what marriage is and the realities of it. I guess it's easier to focus on the fun and exciting sides. Thankfully, we've made friends with other married couples who consistently and honestly show us the realities of marriage. I also have had conversations with my mom about it, as well as growing up in a household where my parents were in marriage counseling for at least 15 years. They are good now, but not after years of hard, challenging struggle.
I'm trying not to wear too-tinted of rose shaded glasses, but I guess that I'll really just have to learn once I'm in it! I can't wait to be married, and I am also terrified. Who knows what it will really be like? But I have complete faith in God that he has brought me and Michael together and we can get through any hardships that come our way. It may not be done quickly or easily, but we will get through them together. I can't wait for that part of our lives to begin! (I'm just not looking forward to the stress and chaos that out-of-town relatives will bring to my parents for the wedding)
So I mentioned before in a blog that I got a job at Barnes and Noble. The thing I have realized while working at that job is how much it requires me to be an optimist when my first and overwhelming reaction is to be a complete pessimist. This job has a lot of things I can be negative about, but if I dwell on those things, I lose sight of the good things about the job, as well as lose all motivation to go to work. To be able to tolerate my job, and even enjoy it at times, I have to focus on the positive aspects. Who would have thought that Barnes and Noble would be a growing experience... well, there's another optimistic thing about it!
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